I am a Peer Mentor to first year students at the university that I attend. As a Peer Mentor, I have a large number of students for which I meet with at least once a month. During these meetings, I get a feel of who they are, how their college experience is going, what their hobbies are, where are they are from, etc. It’s been a awesome journey with this job because through these meetings, I’ve heard so many stories. It’s amazing how much you can learn about someone by having a genuine 30 minute conversation.
One of the most common topics that comes up during my meetings with these students deals with their future. As first year students, they are scared. They are nervous. This is the first time they’ve ever been away from home. This is the first time they don’t have to answer to mom and dad. They have this sense of freedom that they’ve never had before.
With freedom comes a price. Many students have complained to me that they are studying their current major because their parents told them so. Now, when a student tells me this, it put its me a sticky situation. As their peer, I don’t want to step over any boundaries. I don’t want to say “don’t listen to your parents” even though that is slightly the truth. The student may currently be studying Pre-Med but deeply, wants to study Public Relations or Nursing. However, because of pressure from home, they are doing what their parents told them to do.
Parents will always have your best interest at heart. They want the best for you. Your mother carried you for 9 months because she wanted to give you life, opportunities, and success. Your parents know you better than anybody else. However, this whole time, it’s your life that you’ve been living and you must continue that journey.
If there is a major you want to study, study it! If your dream job is halfway across the country, apply for it! If you have an urge, fulfill it. Listen and accept all the advice that comes your way from family and friends but remember all the things you have worked hard for and strive for those goals.
Remember, it’s your future.