THE N WORD

 “Nigger is an ethnic slur directed at black people and is a term referring to people with black skin. The word is a descendant of the Latin word “niger” which means black. In contemporary English, using the word “nigger” is considered extremely offensive.” 

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I’ve heard this word several hundred times in my lifetime. It’s been said to me. It’s been said about me. It’s been said to my family members and friends. I hear it constantly in music. I hear it constantly on comedy shows. I hear it all the time.

Both white and black people have their feelings on this word. Many feel as though it is a term of endearment. They greet their friends with the word. White people will call their black friends this word. Others feel that saying “nigga” is better than saying “nigger” because the “er” is what makes it bad. Others say it to cause pain.

Point blank— You won’t catch me saying the N word for many reasons. Let me remind you the origin of this term. White slave owners called black slaves “nigger” when slaves were being beaten, raped, lynched, and God knows what else. White people didn’t see blacks as human beings but rather as animals—animals that they can toss and boss around until they had enough. To me, it’s one of the worst words to say. It has so much negative history associated with it and it caused so much pain to so many colored people.

You would think after hearing the word regularly, I would be used it, numb to it, it wouldn’t bother me, but it actually has affected me so much more than I thought. I get uncomfortable when people, especially white people are hollering this word out, around me or at me. I’ve told a handful of people that I don’t want the word said to me or around me, but since it’s in the vocabulary of so many, the habit still comes back.

I almost understand why—we hear the word in music all the time. I listen to a lot of rap music and rappers literally cannot go a few verses without spitting the N word out. In my favorite podcast, that I listen to just about everyday, the two authors use the word every few sentence to describe men, white or colored. Because of society’s influencers using this word so casually, people feel as though it is okay to say it as well.

Ultimately it isn’t. I encourage you to read more about the history on this word and see the horrific history behind it. There is absolutely no need for us to be saying it in casual or formal conversation. Educate yourself. Respect your peers. And just stop calling people “niggas.”

It’s truly that simple.

Makeup Spotlight: Lips

Girl. You know I have full lips so it is my duty to highlight them. These are the top shades that you can catch me wearing—

  • Mac Lipstick – “Touch”
    • Alone, this lipstick is too light for me. It has a beautiful, silky texture but alone which is really hydrating for lips. I usually add this color on top of a dark, brown matte shade.
  • Anastasia Beverly Hills Lipgloss – “Vamp”
    • This is a great, pigmented color for fall. Its extremely thick and a little goes a long way. Anastasia also has a matte shade in the same color, so pair them together for a beautiful, deep pink/brown lip.
  • Anastasia Beverly Hills Liquid Lipstick – “Trust Issues” 
    • This shade looks much different online but it is definitely a deep color. This is a great, velvet color for women of color! I like to add this lipstick when I have light makeup for a pop of color
  • NYX – “Simply Red”
    • I’ll be honest, this color isn’t long lasting however, its a good red for times that you really need a SCREAMING lip color. But be sure to bring it with you, if you’re going on so you can re-apply. We all need a pop of red sometimes!

Makeup Spotlight: Face

The past few months I’ve found myself addicted to Youtube makeup tutorials—there are so many! For quite some time, makeup wasn’t something I cared much about. I had MAC foundation, drugstore mascara, chapstick, and I was set. With so many products out there, I was tempted to discover the world of beauty and got myself hooked! Since I work traditional hours during the week, I try and keep it simple with my go-to-routine since in the mornings, I’m always in rush. Of course, when I’m going to dinners or the square with friends, I really try and beat the face for the Gods and Goddess.

Here are my go-to face products!

I HAVE RISEN FROM THE DEAD

It’s been a hot minute! Life has been crazy hectic the last few months and unfortunately, I haven’t had the time to dedicate to writing. With things slowing down and me finally getting a grip on “adulting,” I hope to go back to posting multiple times a week!

THE TIMELINE

I graduated from Texas State University in May with a degree in Advertising. 2 months later, I received a job offer! #Godisgood. I have to say, applying to find a first job was such a challenging process. I stressed myself for many days about what the next step would be for me. I can’t even tell you how many jobs I applied to all over the country—but it was definitely a ridiculous amount. I came across The Creative Group on LinkedIn and they helped me find a job within a few weeks.

I am the Communications Coordinator for Austin Board of REALTORS®. My job consists of a variety of duties but I mostly write blog pieces, ghostwrite for the president of the organization, as well as handle ABoR’s social media accounts. This job definitely correlates with what I studied in school which is an amazing plus since I know many students have a job that doesn’t relate with their school studies. With that being said, I’m really thankful that an organization gave me a start because I know I am capable of so much!

These past few months have been quite the adjustment. As a student, I was constantly busy. I was involved in numerous organizations, was constantly surrounded by great friends, and focused on my school work. Because of a busy schedule, I was barely home. Everyday was filled with something new, which I loved so much.

Working is definitely the exact opposite of that. The days are the same. You have much more a routine and I do not know many people in the city I live in, so I don’t have the ability to go out as much as I used to. I am not surrounded by my peers, or listening to lectures, or studying in a library—all things I never thought I’d miss!

It is my plan to go back to school to get a Masters degree within the next few years. Where and what I will study are unknown for now, but time will tell.

For those of you have recently graduated, I hope all is well. Challenge yourself and find a job position that can show off your talents yet also builds you to be a stronger individual. If you haven’t yet found a job, that is perfectly okay! A part of me wishes that I spent the summer after graduating, relaxing and spending more time with family and friends. Timing is everything meaning everything will fall into place when it is supposed to.

xoxo

 

TOFU SCRAMBLE

Being vegan for the month, I cannot consume eggs and I’ve realized that it’s really hard to try and find things to eat for breakfast. I did some scrolling on Pinterest and found a recipe for Tofu Scramble — basically a healthier version of scrambled eggs.

Recipe

Review: I would rate this meal a 7/10. Maybe I just miss scrambled eggs! I added a ton of seasonings to the recipe as well as corn and peppers, but it still tasted bland. I think that may just be the nature of tofu.

Next time, rather than just adding tomatoes, I will add pico de gallo since it has a much better taste than regular tomatoes!

Enjoy!

VEGAN FOR ONE MONTH

It’s been a while since I have made some posts on here and I apologize for that! Sometimes life just gets in the way —

I wanted to update you all on a challenge I have decided to put upon myself. Since mid-March, I have been consistently working out and attempting to eat right. I’ve been reading blog posts and watching documentaries on eating healthier, the benefits of good food, and just living a better life! I’ve become so inspired after watching great documentaries like Forks over Knives, Food Inc. as well as Hungry for Change. These are all on Netflix, so you can easily watch them! It’s amazing how you can transform your body through simple, clean eating.

While I do want to lose a few pounds and tone up, for me, it’s honestly about living a healthy, happy life. Food effects us in ways you cannot even imagine — good or bad. So many things out there in your local grocery are labeled as “healthy”, “natural” “fresh” and they are so far from that!

It’s going to be a huge challenge but I have decided to go vegan for a month. The word vegan is actually incredibly broad. There are different type of vegans such as:

  • junk food vegans
  • raw food vegans

I’m not necessarily placing a label on myself, because honestly I hate labels. To put it simple terms, I will be cutting out all meat, dairy and fish from my daily diet. My diet will now be plant-based and I’ll be eating fruits, vegetables, grains, beans and legumes.

At the end of the month, I hope to have lost at least 7 pounds, gain more energy and be a better version of myself! If you want to tag along with me on this journey, please don’t hesitate to email me to ask some questions. I’m still doing some research on all that a vegan lifestyle consists of, so I will surely update you all when I gain more knowledge.

To learn more about being a vegan, check this site out. 

email: alexandrawalker318@gmail.com

Here is to a healthy life!

xo

 

 

CHOKERS

Chokers are my everything right now. I don’t wear them for everyday wear, but I love to wear them when I’m heading out with friends. Funny enough, North West & Kim K West got me into them! LOL! This is going to sound crazy, but I haven’t bought any chokers yet because I wasn’t sure if I wanted to spend the money on them. So up until now, I’ve been using headbands. They have worked wonderfully and people can’t tell the difference.

I found this website that makes some really cute chokers. Check them out and hop on the choker trend!

http://stargazejewelry.com/

 

CROCHET BRAIDS

I recently learned about crochet braids and I think they will be my next go to hairstyle! They are so easy to do and with practice, you can probably do them on yourself. It’s the perfect hairstyle if you’re looking for something with lots of volume and curls. Ask your hairdresser if she can do this style for you, for summer!

Maintenance Tips:

  • Before going to bed, separate your hair into 3 sections and twist each section and add a small rubber band or hair tie at the end to secure the twist. After twisting your hair, put on your satin bonnet.
  • After some time, your curls may be hard to manage. Grab a spray bottle, fill it with water, and spray evenly throughout your hair. After this, detangle and add some product.
  • Don’t use a comb in your crochet braids whatsoever!
  • This hairstyle won’t last as long as others. Keep it in for about 4-5 weeks.

Peep some inspiration below — 

The images above are from Pinterest.com

GRADUATION

 

AlumnaOn Saturday 14th, 2016 I graduated with a Bachelor’s of Science in Mass Communications and Advertising and with a minor in Health Information Management.

It’s been a beautiful journey. Texas State University has given me so much — my best friends, inspiring professors, and a community. I am so thankful for the university and its people.

College is a journey that not everyone gets to go through. College is a privilege, not a right. I feel as though history is repeating itself — the rich are educated and able to further their education, while the rest of the population cannot. I was able to attend college because my parents were holding onto a vision. They wanted to see their child take off, discover and broaden their mind. I was able to attend college because I had a great support system.

Some of my best and most proud moments happened while in college. Some of my worst, upsetting moments happened while in college. I grew, I learned, I listened, I spoke, I discovered and I bloomed.

To all the incoming freshmen, cherish the time, for it goes by so fast. Go outside your comfort zone and find out who you truly are. To those who have graduated, the real world starts now! I wish you the best of luck in your job search. Searching for a job is hard, tedious, and stressful, but the right one will fall into your lap soon.

Best of luck to all!